One of the most common things we hear at Lilith is, “Why do I keep ending up in the same relationship pattern?”

Here’s the short answer: You relate from your internal world — not just your conscious one.

Parts Work in Relationship Therapy

We all have different “parts” inside us: protectors, inner critics, abandoned children, pleasers. These parts often carry wounds from our past — and unconsciously take the wheel in our relationships.

We say things we don’t mean. We shut down. We explode. We fall into anxious or avoidant cycles.

Integrative couples therapy includes:

• Identifying triggered parts in real-time
• Learning somatic co-regulation tools
• Rebuilding safety through repair language
• Exploring relationship as a mirror for self-healing

“You can only meet someone as deeply as you’ve met yourself.”

— that’s not just a quote. It’s the core of our relationship model.